It turns out I need my space. One of the reasons I enjoy winter hiking so much is the beautiful and serene silence. Being surrounded by nothing but trees and snow pacifies something inside me that nothing else can match. I have always been aware of (putting it nicely) a "lack of patience with crowds". As I am spending more time in busier places, the draw of the woods has grown stronger. One of my favorite t-shirts and/or bumper stickers simply says: "The more people I meet, the more I like my dog".
Unfortunately for me, the next time I attend a concert it will be a very expensive ordeal. I intend to purchase 10 tickets for the two of us. The three seats in front and behind and one seat on either side of us will simply be empty. While I can (and have!) appreciate the experience of being "down front", surrounded by fellow fans, dancing, laughing and generally enjoying the moment, in a show where the goal is simply to appreciate the music being performed and the artist themselves, I would much prefer to be left alone. I should not have to dodge elbows, guard my drink from a pushy neighbor or fend off seat poachers every time I change positions.
As I re-read the beginning of today's article, I realize I sound like a crotchety old man. I even found myself criticizing someone's driving this morning by saying "They were probably texting!" I don't mean to sound negative, but I truly believe we are losing the notion of consideration. If any one of the people I'm referring to above had taken a quick second to consider the presence (and feelings) of their fellow human being, and they were honest with themselves about it, their behavior would likely (hopefully!?) be very different. Instead, this trend of going through life without regard for any of our fellow citizens seems to be taking hold.
I also recognize that we are all different. Synapses (yes/no responses) make up the "guts" of the human brain. Our brains contain 1013 of these synapses (that is 2 multiplied by itself 10 trillion times!). The immense combination of human brain configurations further explains that no two of us will appreciate the same event the same way. And with that in mind, I make a concerted effort to be more understanding and patient with people who simply approach life from a different angle. This is also the reason we all have such varying tastes in real estate.
Last week we touched on the remodeling projects that can help or hurt your chances of selling. In the end, there really IS a bum for every seat and the "right" buyer really IS out there for your home. The trick is to find that "universal appeal" that will attract the greatest number of interested buyers. This transcends the home itself and continues right on to the location and setting of the home. Yes, location is critical to your home's inherent value and appeal, but "where" your home sits is also important.
My good friends whom I dog/house sit for live in a very rural area and their home sits on 7 acres of wooded land. Each of their neighbors also enjoys similar sized chunks of land and has positioned their homes out of sight from one another. The result is a feeling of complete privacy and, aside from hearing a passing car a couple times a day, glorious, wooded isolation. But I recognize this is not for everyone. Another good friend lives right downtown in a small city. She would not trade her location for the world and would certainly not enjoy living "in the woods" and away from the "life" of the city.
When I hear a town has an ordinance in place for minimum lot sizes, I am immediately attracted. They are setting their town (and neighborhoods) up for a certain lifestyle and a certain type of resident. The same can be said about the developments loaded with "McMansions". I can't help but think of the opening video sequence of the Showtime series: "Weeds" and the song "Little boxes" playing in the background. Again, this is not a criticism, but just a wide variance in the tastes of people's notion of "home".
"When working with a new client and especially first time home buyers, I tend to initially focus a lot of our energy into the type of community or neighborhood they are looking for," notes Badger Realty agent, Michele Southwick. She continued, "They are already interested in the Mount Washington Valley, but there are so many different options available just in this small geographic area. It is important to get the 'setting' right first and then we can shift our attention to the house itself."
We have enough (too many?) grumpy old men in this world. I don't want to be another one added to the pile. I truly appreciate the vast differences we all experience as humans and don't want to begrudge anyone their chosen path. My only wish is for a little (lot?) more consideration for our fellow man. Take a second to look around you and consider the situation of your nearest neighbor. Could you talk a little quieter? Could you wear a little less perfume or cologne? Could you be more aware of your flailing limbs while dancing in a crowd? Could you put the toilet seat down? (Hey, someone just took over my keyboard!!)